While having a tough time trying to be a good mom, and feeling like I am a particularly bad mother. (Mac is sick, and Abby's two years old and likes to wear on my patience) It has been a long day, Mac has been crying almost the whole day, and I have been getting more and more upset. Why do I let his cry bother me so much?? I just wish that I could be a better mom... better yet the best Mom!! I feel awful, I feel like I am not meant to do this (meaning parenting). But thank goodness for my Abby girl. She made me feel much better. Here is our conversation.
Abby: "Mom, we need to talk about it." (She says this after noticing that I am sad and upset)
Mom: Yeah.
Abby: So Jesus, He just wants you to sings songs and be happy.
Mom: So Jesus just wants us to sing songs??
Abby: Yeah, cause Jesus wants.......(Abby currently deep in thought... she pauses)...... Jesus wants ME for a sunbeam.
Abby: And Heavenly Father and God are the... same! And Jesus is the same.
Mom: That's right Abby.... should we sing a song?
Abby: YEAH!! Let's sing that song.. Jesus wants me for a jingle bell.
So this conversation quickly turned from very spiritual to a Christmas jingle bells song. None the less she made me feel so much better. With her I am always reminded that I have second chances to be a better Mom everyday. That is as long as I give her fruit snacks.
I am not going to lie.... parenting is hard for me. But I am so very grateful that I have my wonderful husband to be here for me, and that I have my absolutely crazy daughter to make me laugh and realize that everything is going to be alright.
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That is such a sweet story. Being a mom is not easy for me either, but I love it!
You are an awesome Mom. Awesome people turn into awesome Moms. Can't make anything taste bad with chocolate in it, and you my girl, are the chocolate. I understand those days though. Our kids knock us down and then jump on us, only because they love us ;) Abby's awesome. She made me smile too.
Abby is so cute. It's usually the unconditional love from my kids (which I'm not always sure I deserve)that gets me through the tough days. They always tell me they love me no matter how awful I've been.
I think your daughter is pure genius! Didn't Kermit the frog have a song about singing a song to make you happy? You are SUCH a good person Allison! You couldn't have such a sweet and smart daughter if you weren't! Besides, we have to have those moments of doubt to keep us at trying to do better! And a little reassurance from your friends never hurts too! ;-)
The very fact that your daughter 1) was compassionate enough to try to make you feel better; 2) knew all about Jesus and Heavenly Father and how much they love us; and 3) was able to sing songs that you've taught her...all prove that you are doing a great job as a mom.
There is not a parent out there that feels like they are doing a great job. It's so dang hard! But those Abby moments make it all worth it. :) I know all about the crying baby days. All I can say is HANG IN THERE -- Jacob is such a happy guy at 10 months!!! :)
Allison, I think you are a great mom! Even the fact that you are worried about it proves that you are a good and responsible parent.
Parenting seems to be a challenge for me too, but I keep telling myself that as long as I keep doing my best, Heavenly Father will bless my family and my kids will probably turn out alright!
Abby is such a sweet smart girl! If my Julia turns out anything like her in a year, I will be one very happy mother!
Erka Gardner
Well I think that conversation lets you know that you are a good mother! She's adorable! And you are not alone in feeling lost in the parenting world :)
I agree with you, parenting is NO fun. I am still waiting for that moment when your kids remind you that being a mother is all worth it. Any time now.
yep, parenting is the hardest thing i have ever done (and probably ever will do). there are those nights when i can't get to bed because i am thinking about all of the things that i should have done that day and didn't. and i still can't understand why i can get so frustrated with the little people that i think are the most perfect things in the world. *sigh*
Abby is so adorable. I miss you, are you back? are you coming to my card party saturday? How was your trip? sorry to be so questiony.
What a sweetie pie!
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